Rape,dowry,foeticide-Modern times holocaust of the Indian women:part 1


Every 22 minutes a woman is raped in India, every 90 minutes a bride is burnt alive! out of every 10 women 7 have been sexually harassed, female foeticide status at a all time best ,945 females per 1000 males and honor killings reported at least a 1000 every year. and the icing on the cake, India is on the number 4 Th position in the list for most dangerous countries for women giving tough competition to Afghanistan and  Congo. WOW!!! Not convinced watch this- NIRBHAYA

Many of us must have come across these famous lines,”water water everywhere,not a drop to drink” Yes that’s the state of rapes in India, every where whether you are rich or poor doesn’t matter ,whether you are young or old doesn’t matter, maybe the policies of government for population control or illiteracy eradication may not have access to the cross section of people in the country but the objectification of woman is a common theme for all. Right from the daily wage labor class to the factory workers to employees of MN C’s ,the first thing men notice about an individual is her gender and then the vicious circle of teasing ,harassment and rape starts.In India being a woman is a curse! You think I am overreacting then please watch this.

Mostly  they will kill you in the womb itself or if you are successful in taking birth,then you had it.Right from the discrimination at home where you will be competing for food ,clothing and education with your brothers or fathers or uncles,to the widespread unreported sexual abuse by the same men folk, you would also be taught by the women folk what you are not suppose to do since you are a female, yes you got it right a list of d  o’s and dont’s is handed to every little girl in India and yes her ears are pierced even before she starts speaking because she is a girl and it is her duty to become beautiful even when she is still running around in her diapers!



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If God was a Woman!


If God was a woman Then in the womb “she” would not have been killed,

Then in homes, schools , market places, roads, malls “she “would not have been raped,

Then in red lehengas ,yellow sarees “she “would not have been burnt,

Then in parks , colleges ,buses ,offices “she “would not have been molested,

Then while going out “she “would not have been stalked,

Then”she “would not have been terrified of black alleys ,

Then “she “would not have had her face burnt and deformed by acid,

Then “she ” would not have been forced inside a Bur qua,

Then “she “would not have suffered in silence,

Then “she “would not have been suffering from double-triple burden,

Then “she “would not have raised her child alone,

Then “she “would not have been admonished for giving birth before marriage,

Then “she “would not have been abandoned for not giving birth,

Then “she “would not have been denied food ,education and equal rights,

Then “she “would not have been beaten blue and black by her husband,

Then “she “would not have been burnt as a witch,

Then “she “would not have been sold again and again like a thing,

Then “she “would not have been reduced to a womb factory,

Then “she “would not have been eye candy,

“She “would have known better ,been better ,

But “She ” is no woman,

God ain’t a woman!

God ain’t a Woman!


In a country like India where religion is a very very sensitive issue as most of the people are religious ,even a slight criticism of religion brings out rage in people. Still keeping all that aside today it is pertinent to voice this ,that religion has been doing  great disservice to women for a very long time and the proof to that lies in religion itself.

As religion has treated women less than a man always and every time .The current controversy surrounding Triple Talaq is one of the glaring examples of the discriminatory attitude of religion towards women. 

The baton carriers of religion and in this case “Islam “argue that women are less capable of rational decision making and hence the power to divorce should and has rested with men . Also getting divorced is much better than being murdered and if multiple marriages are not permitted than it will cause more illegal relationships .

The problem with these arguments is that they force the idea  that men are entitled to women and even if they commit crimes against women or make and break relations at their will without any sense of responsibility it is perfectly fine .All these arguments and religious philosophies serve men. What about women ? Here it is clearly seen that such laws merely not only treat women less than men but clearly refuse to recognise them as a human being also. Why does “Islam “not give women the right to give Triple Talaq ?

And more so it is beyond comprehension  that even today why “Islam “which claims to be a very logical religion does not let women pray in mosques?

If mosques are the places where one can be close to “Allah “then why those who create life on earth have been denied access to those very places where one meets her own creator. Going by logic it seems more appropriate for a woman to have access to such a place  first than to a man because the power to create has been given down to a woman and not to a man.

Then the whole controversies surrounding the Sabrimala temple and Haji Ali.Once again complete anhiliation of women human rights in the name of religion.Women bleed which is as natural as breathing to the female body and that too is held against them for centuries to an extent that even today women see themselves as impure.

The arguments of Haji Ali represntatives that when women bend to pray they show their breasts distracting innocent men so they should not be let inside.As according to them having breasts is so unreligious and according to Sabrimala Temple representatives to bleed is so unreligious . In fact to be a woman is so unreligious but still it is amazing to see millions of women thronging temples ,churches and mazars . 

So women need to understand that this version of religion they are following ,first of all has been written by men so that needs to be changed if at all they have to practice it.

Secondly the purpose of religion was to discipline barbaric people but the version of religion today is dehumanising , so that  needs to be changed too.

Be it any religion ,in its current form ,religion is doing great disservice to women as a race by treating them less than equal to men and propagating false ideas of supremacy of men and there by subjugating women  and in turn pushing back women to dark ages from which coming out was so very difficult and took the sacrifice of so many brave women.

Let’s not go back but  let’s change the narrative , let’s rewrite 



Rights ….. Women Human Rights.

#Like a Girl,Patriarchy smashed in the face by Shakshi,Sindhu & Dipa!


While the whole nation of 1.25 billion was busy worshipping the gods of Cricket and when most of the men& boys were away playing cricket in all the gullies & mohallas & drive ways & all the public parks and in turn capturing all the public places and excluding women from it  & when all the “Ladla betas” were busy becoming Doctors and Engineers and IAS ‘s with their studies ,power charged with huge donations and their careers ,nitro charged with hefty dowries ,few gusty women were churning their blood and sweat and turning into world class athletes . While supposedly in our country sports being the “male bastion” ,it is kind of ironic that all the Olympians of this so called cultured nation were two women this year who were ridiculed because of this same very culture for practising sports and targeted for getting coached by men till they won and now everyone is  seeming so thankful to them for saving  our face.

Well done patriarchy but this time you got it in your face because I can imagine that being a woman in a country where females are killed even before they are born , taking birth in itself is an achievement .And to top it all to sustain in such a biased environment and follow one’s dream and live one’s life on one’s term is no short of winning a Nobel prize and here we have three women who not only did all of this but went on to become Olympians is nothing short of a miracle.

And when women were doing miracles ,I suppose our men were playing cricket somewhere .

The nation needs more of such women  and kudos to Shakshi & Sindhu for being the inspiration that you both are and  for winning medals #Like a Girl. And Dipa who placed us  on the world map of Gymnastics with her “Pudnukowas” #Like a Girl 

This  time it was not

 “Beti bachao , Beti Padhao” 


“Beti ne bachaya , Beti ne sikhaya ”

 How to Bring a Woman Down?


So we have a world full of fantastic women. Successful highly motivated ,driven individuals.Astronauts,Deep sea divers,Volcanist,Car mechanics,Adventure bikers ,War journalist,Wildlife Photographers ,Fighter Pilots and what not.

But what it takes to bring a woman down even today is the same old archaic things

A woman aware of her sexuality-men who won’t get her will say -oh she is just a whore!And women will proclaim -oh she is just a bitch!

A woman who is child free-Well people will say she is selfish and women ll call her barren:/

A woman who is too good at her job- She doesn’t even have a family  no responsibility that’s why , otherwise she would have been just like all of us -sheep;)

A woman who does not want to get married-well first of all it’s rare especially in here, in India where marriage happens to be the ultimate goal of any woman’s life ,it’s like getting an Oscar ,of course it is bought with a huge penalty cheque named dowry !Yes it’s 2016 and yes ,men still take money to get married to women in our country.

So such women who don’t confirm to this business deal are considered a burden on their families.😜Imagine not wanting to marry a stranger and not wanting to give money to a stranger makes one a burden!!!

And how wonderful it is to leave behind everything you know and love for starting a new life with your husband ,supposedly it is wonderful but practically it’s like relocating to Mars😱

And if you refuse to go to Mars and worse if you don’t pretend to like it then woman you will be termed a home breaker – hey woman how dare you turn down such a once in a life time offer to live with a house full of strangers ,after all you have married one-(The Walking Dead)Tv season that comes to mind😛

Now you have put on weight woman , huge pounds all at once so now you are out of competition of the “young and the beautiful”.Its imperative for a woman to be these two things all her life ,otherwise her existence is pointless.Because it does not matter how many lines you pack in your grey matter ,your face and body should be wrinkle free , even laugh lines are not allowed , as if they were faultline and for that even if you have too iron them for whatever sakes:(

And yes women putting on weight is directly proportional to the increase in income of the beauty industry so women becoming fat is actually good for a country’s economy.Imagine the amount of money being thrown at slimming creams and clinics . The endless lines in the parlour for getting your hair done and the right make – up for special occasions and then the tricks and hacks to make your face appear slimmer and your butt size smaller and your Breast size bigger and the list of the endless un achieved perfection of beauty directly inspired and powered by Cleopatra’s grave😝

And if a woman somehow escapes all of this then simply say -That you are too aggressive , too ambitious, too open ,too loud , too intelligent, too whatever whatever whatever to be a woman!

Yes even your sex will not be spared .Because  it is not enough to be born with a vagina to be a woman (but it is enough to be born with a penis to be a man).

Oops! Udta Salman 


Well time and again people have been passing casual remarks about rape as if it just one of those things that happens and selling it like an experience , which definitely goes to show the prevalent rape culture all across the globe.

This time the foot in the mouth case is of Salman Khan, the ever so popular star of Bollywood  who compares his state after a   Wrestling bout in the ring to a raped woman!

  • Definitely this comment is totally uncalled for and outrageous but the bigger question here is of that typical mindset which simplifies rape as just another act.The rape culture which is so clearly deeply embedded in our society is what needs to be targeted .The casualness  of relating to a crime so heinous just because it happens to women more often.The whole culture of victim blaming & shaming and doubting the integrity of a woman every time she raises her voice,to the extent that even our newspapers carry the headlines as so and so “alleged rape”! This is what is shocking and this is what needs to be changed.
  • I have been writing time and again about rape and I find my earlier post poignant today when we are once again talking about rape  culture and I hope this time not casually ,so I am posting once again those posts for the convenience of the readers.

1. “Maleficient rape culture”

  • Its true all men are not rapists but all rapists are men especially in countries like India, Pakistan, Bangladesh.Its also true that when a man decides to rape ,he chooses to rape ,yes its a choice ,nobody forces him nor it is for survival or in self-defense. But when a woman is raped she neither chooses it nor she deserves it .And every time a woman is raped we ask all the wrong questions; what was she wearing , what was she doing at that place,why she was alone, why she was out at night and bang comes the explanations too , she was wearing shorts or short skirt(short skirts and shorts are supposed to be short,aren’t they?), she asked for it, she was drunk, she deserves it. I mean what kind of a country are we , leave alone what kind of people are we ,where is our humanity.Instead of standing in support of the victim we backlash at them and completely forget about the perpetuater.

And how many times this has to be repeated ,rape is not a sexual crime its a gender crime.And it is heinous and hideous . No man and I repeat no man has the right to destroy a woman’s life her self-esteem and self-confidence. Rape is not committed in a moment, when someone rapes, he rapes a woman of her life, dignity and future. And the rape culture in which we live in, not only permits the rapist to escape but also counter argues for them by saying these things like shit happen and boys will be boys.

And rape culture is not a typical third world country problem, because all around the globe women are fighting date rapes and campus rapes. So grave is the impact of this culture that even a Disney movie could not escape from its Maleficent clutches!Its high time we started asking the right questions and instead of blaming women for rape , start teaching men not to rape.Instill in little boys that real men do not rape women.Or very soon the time will come when women will be forced to become vigilantes.

This rape culture is no good ,its taking us back from where we came, back to being animals.Its pure evil !!!

2.”Extinction of Rape”

So first we banned India’s Daughter, then we are still letting Nirbhaya’s rapist and killers live(Death Penalty stayed) and now again the open season for rape .Now its a 70 something Nun who has been subjected to this abject horror.Still people believe that RAPE is a sex crime which is the product of a diseased deranged mind.

There is more to this story, Suzette Jordan who was branded as the park street rape victim was victimized for coming out in the open when she should have just stayed indoors and cursed her life, she had the audacity to first report the crime then fight for justice imagine being a woman she was acting so aggressive and on top of it she had no shame she just revealed her identity . What shame should a woman have, when her undergarments are paraded in the open court as evidence? What shame shall a woman have when her testimony is being challenged by the chief minister of the state which is also a woman? Behaving like this with anyone leave alone a woman is the product of a diseased deranged mind.Instead of shaming the rapists the survivor is being targeted.Amazing stuff!

But the fact of the matter is all these incidents throw up some very important question and until and unless we find answers to them ,we cant stop this Rape epidemic of monstrous proportions. The first would be why do men rape?

Firstly, rape has a history.Like humans discovered fire , the human male discovered that he can rape.This would have happened when man first domesticated animals and started to forcefully impregnate the female cattle . It was then that the human male discovered that his genitalia could serve as a weapon to generate fear.And this deployment of the penis as a weapon was one of the most important discoveries of pre -historic times.

This also answers the historic question of the subjugation of women by men as the female fear of an open season of rape and not a natural inclination towards monogamy, motherhood or love was the single most important key to her historic dependence and domestication by protective mating.Disappointed and disillusioned by the inherent female incapacity to protect she became estranged in a very real sense from the other females- a problem that haunts women organisations even today.

So men rape because they can rape and rape gives them a sense of power even if it is for a small duration. The sex the lust or the frustration is just a cover for the basic human need to have power to have control over the other and that is the reason that even till today in wars rape is used a weapon of mass destruction of the enemy’s morale with the added benefit of procreation of a new race which in turn weakens the ethnic stronghold of the enemy.

So the million dollar question is how do we stop RAPE, we cannot afford to have RAPE coexisting with us . We have to make RAPE extinct.And for that we have to teach men and young boys not to rape, rather than preaching women to not get RAPED!

3. “A License to Rape!!!”

Well well well what should I say, this time they have outdone themselves. How can on the pretext of saving marriages, millions of human life are being put on the line.Is this not the violation of the basic human right of life ,liberty and security?Or just maybe because these lives do not matter much after all they are lives of women and killing women is no big deal in this country ,already we have killed 50 million in just the last decade, Practice makes us perfect!

The men’s right groups say martial rape law will be misused just like the dowry law. Newsflash for all these people ,any law I repeat, any law can be misused and in our so corrupt country it is a cake walk. And speaking of karmic justice when these men get married they want hefty dowries(huge sums of money) because they have an awesome job and when these guys try to leave their wives , they are charged with anti- dowry & cruelty laws.Please note, women are not things that you bring from the market ,play and then throw.Choose a good person to get married to ,do not get married to dowries!

The Indian Law says having sex with a woman without consent is Rape, even sex with wife during separation is Rape by husband so why sex without consent is not Rape. Just because it is the husband and with the marriage license comes the license to Rape a woman. Or that men are entitled to sex and to quench this basic need they have to get married? And women are sex providers who choose by getting married to be raped by one man rather than the whole lot?

So the next time a man rapes a woman he will simply get married to her and will not get prosecuted and then will leave her and rape again and get married again, the same cycle continues, Awesome!

Or maybe I should put it like this come to incredible India- Rape-Marry or Marry -Rape and live happily ever after.

But what about women? They are left with few choices like not getting married at all, just imagine this happening , then what will happen to all the family saving school of thought.Or maybe some women will do this:All this seems man hating but let me remind that all men are not rapists but all rapist are men and rape is not just physical. Every human has the right to live with dignity and no law , no country , no system should be able to rob that from an individual whether man or woman. No woman chooses to be born as a woman , no woman chooses to get raped but a man makes a choice when he rapes , do not be that man , do not make that choice.

The Poetry of the Universe!


The Poetry of the Universe

Even when the earth was not born,

Some words were set in motion.

And when man spoke for the very first time,

It was nothing but sheer poetry of the universe !

Matter is just notional,

You and I are just magic,

Born out of love ,

Bridging the gap between the seen and felt .

Just like the wind and sun rays,

Made of mud to transcend into the oblivion called universe,

Never ending and without any limits!