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Mardaanis of India


India’s Mardaanis!
India has been ranked as the 4 th most dangerous country for women and seeing the crime graph it is self explanatory that Indian women are subjected to sexual assault/harassment day in and day out.
That too when most of the cases go unreported so one can only begin to imagine the mammoth of a problem this is for women.The #MeToo campaign has also brought out stories of sexual assault to light from all over the world.

Well this is the problem but what about the solution. Some will say we need to change the mindset of men who treat women as objects and I agree but that is a long drawn process , also the laws needs to be made stricter and implemented but that too is not in women’s hand.The important thing is to understand the psychology of the attacker .Men assault women because they can as they are not expecting any retaliation, they know they can do it and get away with it.Thats it Period.

So we need to change this music , these dynamics and that can be done if women learn to defend themselves because the same men are afraid to attack homosexuals as they expect to be attacked by them.

Also the human body when confronted with an assault situation goes into fight or flight mode. So to fight one needs to train.

There are so many forms of martial arts like Krav Maga, Karate ,Kungfu, Judo, Taekwondo,Akido,,Thang-ta,Muay Thai,Wing Chun and Indian forms like Gatka, Lathi , Kalaripayattu .Martial arts can be learnt at any age and not only does it equip you to fight but also gives you confidence and makes you self -disciplined, which makes it a necessary life skill in today’s date and age.

There are so many Indian women who are teaching others self defence and topping the list is 76 year old Meenakshi Amma who teaches Kalaripayattu . Richa Gaur who runs the Global Institute of Self-defence and martial arts at Jaipur who herself is a champion in Muay Thai. Then there is 33 year old Sharmila Madhu who teaches Kungfu at Mysore.And many others like Kambung Wanysa from Arunachal Pradesh,Bhavisha Singh, Pashwini Sharma from Saharanpur, Pragya Chabra , Pinki Singh from Patna who are doing this noble work of empowering other women and girls .These women are not only martial artists but an inspiration for millions of women who have been taught that they are weaker than a man.These women everyday are breaking this myth that men are stronger than women.

So my call to action to any woman who reads this, please go and equip yourself with martial arts, please go and enroll yourself today and after you have learnt please teach other women and girls so that there is no more rape ,molestation, acid attacks.

No more “abla naaris “only 

Mardaanis- a force to reckon with!!!


The New Durgas & Kalis!


Women bodybuildersIndia celebrates today the ninth day of Durga Puja or the worship of “Ma Durga ” the epitome of power “Shakti”, it is ironical that in the same country ,violence against women is on an all time high!It’s pretty evident that the feeble form of females happens to be the target of violence against them .And when this very female form becomes strong and brave,it is worshipped ,clearly showing that it’s time that in this “no country for women”, we women need to invoke the “Durga & Kali” in us.

Indian women body builders are the torchbearers of breaking stereotypes of women being feeble and petite to women being strong and muscular.

From 2014 India has seen a surge of women bodybuilders like Shweta Rathore , Yasmine Manak ,Shweta Mehta,Bani J,Ashwin Wasakar, Saritha Devi,Deepika Choudhary ,Mamota Devi,Deepika Choudhary ,Ankita Singh and the latest Miss world at World Bodybuilding Championship 2017-Bhumika Sharma.

From battling stereotypes , to over coming health issues or getting back up after a breakup ,to disapproving parents ,to being made fun off, to battling poverty and no sponsorship .These women have seen it all .
Not only are these women the new “Durgas & Kalis “but they are and will be an inspiration to the coming generation of women in a country like India where there are very few women role models who are genuinely good and authentic as generally young women ape their lives on the lines of actresses and models .
The way ahead for Indian women lies in becoming strong and self reliant financially,emotionally and physically because

 “The Knight in the shining armour ” is no one else but they themselves.

Loitering Solo!


In India there is a definite divide in the public places for men and women. While most men roam aimlessly , women are generally fewer in number and usually seen with some work like going to market or office or are often accompanied by children or other family members.What is missing is the tribe of aimlessly wandering females.

And there in comes the role of solo female travelling which should be an imperative part of an Indian woman’s life as not only travelling solo enhances the confidence of women by bringing them out of the safe confines of their homes but  also makes them depend on oneself which Indian women greatly lack due to little or no participation in the decision making process of the family.

Also to bridge the gender divide in public places it is pertinent that women are seen in large numbers hanging out in public places reclaiming their right to public spaces rather than in malls and cinema halls which provide protection same as their homes and are rather in the category of public private spaces.Also if India is to become a safe country for women , more women need to be seen in public spaces and only women can  change this cultural narrative of women being behind doors rather than on streets.

Solo travelling for women not only empowers women but also gives them the taste of complete freedom which is something which Indian women have been deprived for the longest time.Solo travelling also teaches you to love your own company.Serioulsy you will discover the things about yourself which you never knew existed in the first place.

So the next time just loiter out in your city , that park you have been eyeing for so long or that part of the city you never visited or that park in which you wanted to sleep on the grass or that impromptu trip to that exotic foreign land which you always dreamed of going, just do it because loitering is good for you and refreshing for your soul.

An act of rebellion which makes you feel so powerful.Don’t believe me try it for yourselves. Bring out that cool adventurer, explorer , traveller in you because,

Loitering solo is the new black!!!

Bikebaaz Bikerni


In this no country for women, in small -small patches not only women are revolting but also are slowly learning to enjoy their being and are shedding the age old tag of the weak and helpless.

From 2011 onwards there has been a rapid rise in women biker clubs in India which goes to show how women are dismantling  the male bastion of bike riding as even today 90 percent of the bike riders are male. Bikers clubs like “Bikerni”, “The Riderni”,”Lady Bikers”,”Hopongurlz”,”Lady bikers of India”,”Bengal lady bikers”,”Regals”,”Biking queens”,”Biker babes”are doing a awesome job by providing women a platform for bike expeditions and a place where other women can learn and teach riding bikes.It will also go a long way in building unity in women.Not to forget that some of these clubs are spreading awareness on women’s issues proving that they are not just rebels but rebels with a cause.

Riding a bike not only gives women the confidence but also enhances their self-image. Also since the societal pressure on women’s life is immense in our country , riding a bike makes a woman less bothered as to what others think about them.It also adds to the list of things a woman can do as supposedly against the gender stereotypes of women being physically weaker than men.And finally riding a bike liberates a woman as everything loses the ability to scare.

What is more powerful then a self assured woman who doesn’t not flinch in the face of adversity!

The Case of The Wayward Indian Wife!                                 #A Letter To Her


The Case of The Wayward Indian Wife!#A Letter To Her

Note:Domestic violence in India is an institutionalised form of violence which has the approval from the society and is inherent in the name of culture especially if it is directed towards woman as it is seen as a tool to control the wayward wife and in some cases the daughter too.

To the Wayward Indian Wife,

Let me tell you a story.A story of a woman from womb to tomb.In our land ,being a female ,if you have been given the opportunity to take birth than you should know you are lucky and blessed because many of your sisters in arms were not even allowed to take birth ,yes 50 million of them are missing ,so you can say you are in a million.

And if you have been schooled and sent to college and have been given an education ,you should once again feel very lucky and blessed ,as you belong to 64.6% of the 500 million female population of this country which is literate.

And of course ,you have to get married because you cannot remain a burden on your parents and you should be happy that your parents have provided you with a husband and a home, with a promise that only one man would ever touch you , that’s all you have to bear if at all this be the problem.

But you thankless , unreasonable woman , you still complain that your husband demanded pleasure from you. You were asked to cook and clean for him . You were to bear his children. What if sometimes in the rage of anger or the influence of alcohol or influence of some words from his folks he just slapped you . So what even parents slap children at times . What’s the big deal , it was for your good because you were being unreasonable not listening to him. After all he does so much for you . He keeps you, feeds you but you still complain. You are a grown woman one slap or two slaps or kicks and fists are not going to kill you . So don’t create a scene . He is a man and men are entitled to anger and violence . He needs to hit to feel like a man. So please don’t make it a big deal.You are a woman and such feats of anger does not suit you ,so my dear wayward Indian wife , open your eyes and stop complaining after all he is your ” Parameshwar” your God and how can you question or disobey your God . Let him decide what you will eat , what you will wear , when or not will you meet your parents, how much money you would get for running the house or how many male children would you have, Let your God decide and yes you should worship the people who brought this God on earth for you,your in-laws.

Otherwise picture yourself , lying in some hospital with a swollen face and broken ribs!

Meena Kandaswamy’s book “When I Hit You” is an essential read in today’s time because we still picture the victim of domestic violence as some docile weak woman when even strong independent women are also victims of such violence, a kind of a myth which need to be busted like many myths and stereotypes surrounding women.

I am Three!!!

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More than 100 blog posts, 3551 views and 2240 visitors have made this awesomeness possible.Thank you all and with the promise “She” shall keep writing till the time the world is a fairer place for all!

Teach girls to be brave not beautiful!


In today’s scenario when violence against women is on an all time high , when “Jyoti Singh” aka Nirbhaya is being made at every nook and corner of the country, it is pertinent to teach our girls to be brave and not beautiful as all this Cindrella dresses are not going to save the from the atrocities which will be meted out to them by the powerful .

When the “Prince Charming” would turn out to be a monster and when everyone of us will not have happy endings aka lived happily ever after then the brave in our souls will be are only resort .

Everywhere I see around me , I see young girls being brainwashed into thinking that being beautiful at any cost is the paramount of their lives and being married to a wonderful man is the ultimate of their lives, which is so far removed from the harsh truth of life . 

So it is important to set forth right and relevant role models like the “Amazonian women warriors” or the new icon “Wonder Woman ” to tell women that they are strong and they should depend on themselves.